When somebody starts a sentence with "no offense but" you know you are about to hear the most offensive thing ou have heard to date. So when my friend started with "I don't mean to offend you but..." I braced myself. I thought I was ready for the blow. Except she broke the unspoken rule of friendship amongst mothers and stated it was a good thing I had Him Indoors as his fathering skills made up for my shortcomings as a mother. I always thought that it was ok to self-mock ones mothering talents or lack of them but in a world where mothers are made to feel guilty whatever their choices by parents, parents in law, the media and politicians in general the last thing that is needed is for friends to join the chorus. The blow was low enough to hit hard and I thought of striking back, it would have been easy, stones and throwing and glasshouses and all that. I didn't. I put it down to too much drink on her part and oversensitivity due to lack of sleep on mine (been wearing my comfort jumper far too much the last couple of weeks - I need some sunshine and I need it soon). Thankfully I bumped into Christine on my way home at the week-end and she took me under her wing, we collected food and bubbly from my house, went back to her place where she cooked for me food that you can pick at (I am not eating much better than I am sleeping) and we drowned our lunch in bubbles. When you feel a bit fragile some friends are better than others...
Say it like it is why don't you...
8.11.04 22:41
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(8.11.04 23:01) well of all the nerve, but it's usaly the parents whose kids always have head lice that are the first too complaine about the other parents not getting rid of it in their own kids. Hope you get to sleep soon. Phenigan or piriton help sometimes |
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(9.11.04 16:19) She has a nerve, but I'm glad that your other friend was there for you when you needed her. x |
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Daisy / Website (10.11.04 11:24) She said WHAT????? And you're sure that she wasn't joking? Bloody hell. Sorry to hear that you're not sleeping and eating well, November is a bitch of a month isn't it. Try and ignore the silly mare. If it was said while under the influence it was probably not what she meant to say (I don't believe this in vino veritas crap). Do you see her regularly? Can you have a (sober) discussion with her about it? |
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(10.11.04 20:38) I think I won't mention it. I expect the wine was talking. She had had a rubbish evening and there were only 2 of us close enough for her to lash out at knowing we would forgive her (most people always forgive her). Sleep nearly back on track. Eating better, though still favouring finger food. |
